Food for Thought

Food for Thought...

The phrase "I'm done, Ima find a something new because this doesn't work"  hmmmmmm.. Okay

All the Zumba class, all the toning days, all the meal prepping, all the sacrifice, staying constant, being discipline.. Is the way to achieve fitness goals.. 

It drives me crazy when people say "I tried it and it's not working", how long did you try it? Were you constant 7 days a week 24 hrs a day?.. 

I can guarantee that you meet all your fitness goals.. As a fitness/life coach I can give you the 16 week meal plan help you detox twice a month. Teach you how to manage time and meal plan, I can give you a gym work out plan or train you.. And once a month I can sit down with you and go over your fitness goals to keep them current and constantly remind you of them.. 

But if mentally you are not ready.. You will fail.. I cannot force you to make changes. It gets me down when people quit and blame me for the reason they quit.. I'm not the normal trainer.. I don't just workout with you.. I prepare you for a mental and physical lifestyle change.. I take on your goals.. I know what it's like to battle with weightloss, stress, no time, family issues, weightloss guilt.. I was once in your shoes.. It's okay to quit, not show up, gather your thoughts, but if your being given all the tools and just not using them, please don't blame your trainer.. 

I'm a fitness coach with an amazing trainer I love to pieces!! I'm not use to having a support system.. And this is something that I'm working on.. Depending on others for help in an area I know I need help in.. Over the last 5 years I managed my weightloss journey on my own.. So now while I'm stressing out and struggling with my meal plan with no money in my food budget.. Running around and taking care of others and not taking care of myself..  I run to myself to figure it out instead of my trainer.. I have no energy and my life balance is off again.. I can't blame my trainer for results I'm not achieving.. 

People complain and slander others, when they need to stop and think and point the finger in the correct direction.. 

Until you read or I write again,

Kisses and Misses

Learning to Love this NEW life...

Learning to love this NEW life

I was sitting here thinking about the past year of my life, chapter 32, this has been one amazing ride good and bad. I have been on a roller coaster since January.  I’m still trying to find some understanding and why this all happened to me, but I have to remember who am I to question God’s plan. I have been homeless, heartbroken, and hopeless, but no one would have ever known. I smiled, I laughed, and I did everything I would normally do. But when it was quiet and I was all alone I cried and cried and cried. I had to shake it off or sooner than later I would go crazy, I just know it.

I decided that my new life was going to be MY new life. So I decided to go vegan, I no longer felt guilty about my natural hair, and I embraced my weird style of dress and music. I decided to be the mother that always wanted to be. I no longer felt bad about going to gym, and teaching my Zumba Classes. I was free to live. When you’re in a relationship it’s hard to just be you(well it was hard for me). You always have to think about what the other person might think about you. I can say that I had an amazing husband for 7 years and great marriage it wasn’t perfect, but it was great. Just at some point enough is enough, and it’s time to move on.

I have been able to do things I thought I would never be able to do. I was told I was a quitter and I had no “drive”. Those words always kept me from trying different things, because if I failed than He would have been right. But now being alone I can jump and know that God will caught me if I fall. I have some amazing people in my corner that have believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself.  I have been able to set my goals high and reach for the stars.

I want to say when I was married, but I am still married so I guess I’ll just say when I was in a relationship, or wait when I was with my husband.. I don’t know.. LOL ANYWHO.. When I was with my husband I did not go to church because he did not want to go, or had to work, or the football game was on, or whatever the excuse was, so I would stay home with him or I just wouldn’t go because I felt guilty I was still going to church’s website and get the Scripture for the sermon and try to read it with some kind of understanding, but it wasn’t the same. Being alone, my son and I go to church every Sunday, and I have been able to develop my relationship with God again. And it’s an amazing feeling. He has opened so many doors for me since I’ve put him first it’s unbelievable at times.

My son and I have always had a wonderful relationship but over this past year it has developed into something so much more. After I left my husband I felt I lost everything that it was the worst decision I could ever make, but I looked at my son and realized we both deserved more than what we were getting, but I lost my stepson seven years of having someone in your life and overnight never see him again is so hard. My son lost his best friend and it kills me, so that’s one reason I wish I could take it back.

I’m thinking about the woman I was eight years ago and the woman I am now, I would not even be able to recognize her. Back then I stood for nothing and I really did fall for everything. I had no identity I did not know who I was. I went along with anything just trying to fit in. To make everyone around me happy, but I was miserable. And now look at me!!! I know exactly what want, I know who I am, I know where I’m going, and I know my God is good!! I smile because I love the way I feel. I’m happy healthy and blessed.

I’m still alone and I have still decided not to date, I just don’t feel that it would be fair to date someone new when I’m not sure if my heart is completely healed. I have been struggling with the thought that I’m still married. How can I date someone new when I’m still married to someone else? The other day I was having this conversation with a few of my friends, and they reminded me that my husband is in a relationship with the woman he cheated with, and they are living together, so I am not married anymore and that it’s just a piece of paper that no longer means anything.

I had a conversation with a new client and she was giving me the opinion she formed about me prior to meeting me from a conversation with someone I haven’t talked to in YEARS. She expressed me to that she was SO HAPPY that she decided to reach out to me anyways, because she feel that I had a different spirit than what she was told, and meeting me she knows now that she was misinformed. It’s sad that I have people who still hold on to past encounters with me, or anyone for that matter. BUT HEY I cannot help that I feel that’s their issue. I prayed for forgiveness and I know that I will never be a mean and hate filled person again. The chip I had on my shoulder has been gone for a long time. I tell people all the time that I was that person, and it took counseling for me to get to the root and find out why. I have so much more to live for to walk around with all that on me!  

I am approaching chapter 33 with this new view on life, and this new outlook on who I am. I’m falling in love with the woman I’m growing into. I stared in the mirror today and embrace all of me and reflected on the path and thanked God for this journey.

 

Thanks for reading..

Until I write again, or until you read again

Kisses and Misses

When is ENOUGH is ENOUGH

What happens when enough is enough

I just shared an article about a young man name Lee Thompson that “tmz.com” reported that Thompson committed suicide at the age of 29. http://www.buzzfeed.com/jtes/report-jett-jackson-actor-lee-thompson-young-dead-at-29. The comments I have read on other post: “How can someone do this to themself?”
 

This is a very difficult subject to talk about but this is real life and happening more and more on a daily bases. I can tell you I am about to be very open and honest with you all in hopes that maybe this can open your eyes to someone going through hard times.

Well when enough is enough..  It is possible that you get to the point of no return. I know sadly.. I have almost got to that point. I have to tell you, you just don’t get to this point over night. It takes to a few bad things to get you to this point speaking from experiences.

So this is it.. I have been on my own since the age of 18 years old.. for a moment I was pregnant and homeless confused scared and unsure of what would happen next.. Then I was in a relationship that was not the healthiest or happiness with a child I felt I was trapped in with no way out.. Then I was in a marriage that hit a hard and devastating point trying to living off of pennies for months making it work.. Then to have my husband choose another woman and no longer want to be in a relationship with me.. I had to move… after leaving and moving in with a friend.. I was not able to pay any rent and I had to move again.. My car was breaking down on a regular... I had isolated myself to commit myself to my husband and family.. The friends I thought I had was having convo behind my back judging me off my facebook post.. so I no longer had a close friends (my own fault) to help me though this heart break no one to cry to (I felt like I couldn’t explain what I was going thru without being judge).. I had a few friends call and check on me but no one knew how serious it got… I told them I was okay and making it though, it was a phone convo you can lie they can’t see you or your pain.. I was smiling and pushing through on a daily in public, but crying and falling apart in the dark, but even in public mentally I wasn’t there I would break down in crying spells over songs that came on the radio. One night it got bad ENOUGH WAS ENOUGH I was over it.. I wanted the pain to stop the headaches to end…  I couldn’t take anymore I felt that I would be happier gone and my son would be better off without me.. I had been told that I was failure, a nobody, I had no drive and no future… and at this moment I was starting to believe it..  I had no plan on what to do.. I just knew it had to be done!!  I just laid there crying my eyes out.. my son woke up.. lifts my head .. all of 12 years old and says, “mom we’ve been though worst, you’re the strongest woman I know. You can do this! And I will never leave you. I will always love you.” He wiped my face and we laid there together on a little twin bed. I realized what was I thinking!! What was I doing, my everything was not lost.. my world didn’t end.. I was laying with it right now.. I couldn’t give up.. I wouldn’t..

But if I didn’t have my little love bug shaking me up. Who know how my story would have played out.. If I did end it all it would have been a mystery to all… people would have said,

“What could have been so bad?” “But she seemed so happy all the time” “But every time I talked to her she said she was fine.” “When I talked to her I told her she was stronger than this and god doesn’t give you more than you can handle”

Sometimes it’s just not enough if you know someone is hurting don’t casting them off with a few quotes and hope that helps, cause sometimes people need more than that.. Or say they being dramatic.. Cause sometimes it’s a call for HELP!!  They need to get out their own mind and thoughts... The power of OVER THINKING… You can take something... for example (no money to pay a house bill, you can over think it to the point where you are homeless) I have that BAD I do it all the time.. something I’m working on..  Sometimes people just need to tell their story without judgment, but to afraid to talk to someone..  But they need to explain how hurt they are.. They need a hug… they need therapy…. They need something…  

But personal ya'll I needed to remember that it will get better.. one day.. I have been pushed down more than I've been helped up.. but I have someone in my corner that will always be there.. And I can get sad, worried or stressed.. But I will try not to let it get to the point of no return.. and I will not stay there long than I need to..

Hi I am a worrier with a heart issues.. I have recognized my issue and I will do my best to work on it day by day..

Think about the good and try not to think about the bad..

Thanks for reading..

Until I write again, or until you read again

Kisses and Misses

Glow Worthy

Am I Glow Worthy?! HECK YEA I AM!!



There's a facebook page that I love called Eccentric GLOW.. and I adore the page owner too!! She put a post up awhile ago about posting pictures of her fans and featuring them on her page.. so joking around I tell her that I was going to email her a picture of me in my work out gear.. and she told me that would be fine becau

se she doesn't discriminate... LOL

That made me think today I was all dolled up and feel just as strong, confident, and beautiful as I do when I'm in my work out clothes hair half comb with a sweat band and tennis shoes on...

I used to always compare myself to the terms of what I needed to look like to be beautiful to feel beautiful.. I thought I need to be taller, my skin need to be lighter, I needed to wear make-up and always in a pair of heels.. I needed to have long hair.. Hell I just needed to be ANYONE BUT ME... So I would get all dressed up had to have the sew ins, the nails done, a tight dress, heels I don't walk in, then I would look in the mirror and say okay now I'm pretty.. HA!!! HORSE CRAP!! When really my face was itchy, I couldn't breath my head itch and I was about to knock myself out from pattin my head, my feet hurt can't dance... But I was "beautiful"

Over the last year and a half.. I no longer compare myself to the person standing next to me.. I'm awesome just the way I am.. PERFECT with all my IMPERFECTIONS... Its okay to have my natural nappy hair.. its okay to be 5ft 3in its okay to hate heels its okay to love jeans and sweat pants, its okay to wear shorts with my meaty thighs, its okay to not wear make up everyday.. I can be Glow worthy in the eyes of many, maybe not all but I will always be in the eyes of the person that matters the most and that ME!!

Heck some of the pictures on my Instagram people that know me, know me are like "wow I can't believe some of the pictures you post".. its cause IDC.. I'm at the gym my hair don't have to be done up.. I'm silly, I make silly faces all the time.. I don't care if the world sees them anymore... I'm being silly not trying to be pretty!!

I have changed into a new and better person no longer hiding behind binds peaking out when I want to be seen.. LIKE IT OR LEAVE IT.. people are so quick to say that I pretending to be someone I'm not.. I'm "fake". When the truth is I was FAKE and now I'm real.. Constantly question and analyzing me, I have been help and I've battled the demons that wear attacking, holding me back, and holding me down. Working on ways to never let them come back.

This is me.. the question is WHO ARE YOU?!

 

Soap box moment.. :)

 

Until I write again until you read again

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If I could RE-DO my interview

In late October A Fab U asked me to be on her radio on show.. If you missed it here’s the link..

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/urbanlasvegas/2012/10/27/a-fab-u-with-guest-a-monique-hunt-weight-loss-coach#.UIrEDHBhjXE.facebook

I went into more detail about some of the question I was asked below.. it was my first radio show and I was so scared I forgot to say a lot of things I wanted to say... So below are the things I wish I would have said or could have said…

Radio show question

1)  Explain to those that may not know what it is that you do exactly?

I call myself a life coach. I have certification in Personal training, weight

loss nutrition, and I'm currently working on a sport nutrition certification. I

also create pre-pack juicing bags. I want to give anyone the power to get

healthy. On my weight loss journey I started out with a trainer. My family had a

dramatic financial issue and I could no longer afford a trainer. I could not

find anyone to help me or even give me guidance for free, so I knew the only person that

would train me for free was Me. So I got educated. So now I want to be that

person for the next person. If someone needs help I can be there for them.

2)  What do you charge for your services?

To personal train I charge 5 dollars. To teach a person how to create a meal

plan I charge 10. And to create a 1 a day pre-pack juice bag for 7 day its

starts at $60. But always willing to help for free.

3)  How important do you think it is to be healthy body wise?

I think its very important. When you are mentally physically and emotionally healthy I think

it will help you balance out every aspect of your life.

4)  Your weight loss journey was  a rollercoaster in the beginning. Why do you

think it was hard for you to stick to it?  And, what advice would you give to

listeners that are struggling with losing & gaining back weight?

I was going about it all wrong!! Is the biggest thing. I wasn't educate going in

to any of my dieting phase. I wanted something quick and fast. So I would go to

the diet doctor the weight loss program. I was not teaching myself smart

planning discipline. I wasn’t teaching myself a lifestyle change, just a for the

moment change.

I would tell anyone out there you have to find a connection with the reason why

you need to get healthy. Teach yourself that this will have to be a life long

decision . Know that the road is tough and it will never end. You have to get

out of the I need to loss weight mind frame. And say I want to get healthy. When

you get healthy, and active the weight will come off.

5)  How important would you say it is to have a plan and not to just wing it?

Being prepare is the number one key to being successful in any journey in your

life. If you have a plan of attack in place its less likely to make poor choice.

6)  Do you think a person’s weight affects their self-esteem or is it all

mental?

I think it plays a role with some not all. But that's the first thing I tell

people. You have to love and except you just the way to are at your starting

weight because if you don't you will see that same person at your goal weight.

Always wanting to lose more always finding flaws in yourself.

7)  What inspired and motivated you to want to reach out and help others?

Like I said I was a person that need and wanted to lose weight I didn't have

anyone to help and motivate me. I see a lot of friends that needed what I had to

offer. But I couldn't get them to join. So I extended my services to other and I

fell in love with helping others.

8)  What is your ultimate goal with @Home with A. Hunt, what would you like to

see it become?

I want to teach families to get healthy at home! This is where it all starts. If

You’re a women or man with a family on the road to get healthy if the whole family

is not on board you will not be as successful. I want to change the family trees

of African Americans. I want the next generation to have a different idea of

soul food. Food that can help the soul and not block your heart. I want to teach

our youth how to be healthy how to create there own school lunch show them a

work out routine to do before or after school to create mental clarity. The gym

doesn't create a healthy happy person. It all starts at home. And I want to be

apart of a family success.

9)  Did you have a lot of people supporting you on your journey?  How did that

help or hinder you?

No I didn't but that was my personal preference. The first 3 month of my healthy

journey. I did it on my own with only my husband and kids backing me. I didn't

have any friend that were mentally were I was. And to avoid making bad choices I

stayed away until I was strong enough to hang out with out ruining my progress..

10)  What advice would you give someone who’s having a hard time getting

starting with their goal to lose weight?

Evaluate the importance of what you’re doing. Find passion in journey. You have to

find your why (the reason need to make a change) and remind yourself every day.

Take the steps..step one find your why. Step two evaluate the roads: road a if

you continue to live the way u are now what's at the end of the road? Road b if

u make this change what's at the end of that road? Step 3 take action with the

road you choose and find happiness with it, and create a plan of attack. And always be

open to reevaluate. Know that with any road you choose it will be tough but you

are tougher, SO fight until u get to the next fork in the road. Because

there’s no finish line..

Changing your food habits is tough and to me I think its a process a diet that

works for one person might not work for another. I wouldn’t be successful on a no carb

diet and someone else maybe they would be everyone is different. I have to ask

so many question when I create a meal plan and then take it week by week. You

just have to find what food make you happy and healthy.

11)  Would you say that losing weight is something that you need to do for

yourself and not to please others?

Of course any change you make if its not a change your making for you it will

not make you happy and you will not stick to it.

12)  Do you ever have a cheat day?

Yes ma'am I do!! And I enjoy those moments. But I cheat smart and in moderation.

And I plan for my cheat day. And continue to work hard after it.

14)  How can people get in touch with you or find out more about what you do? I

have a facebook page. Facebook.com/homewithahunt. Follow me on twitter

homewithahunt follow me on instagram athomeahunt. I have a blog that has my story if you want to check it out.

Homesweethunt.blogspot.com or just shoot me an email athomewithahunt@yahoo.com I

post recipes, workout, information on juicing, motivation quotes and all kinds

of stuff.

15)  Any closing words?

Just remember happiness is key to a healthier you. Slow down and listen to your

body it has a lot to say if you just take a moment to listen. And always smile

its good for your health! Thank u!!

So there you go!! :)

Until I write again until you read again

Kisses and misses

sex and INTIMACY

I was having a VERY interesting convo with a fitness friend of mine that I wanted to share with you all..

I have told you all that I have had counseling to open some closed doors in my mind to help me with my total mission to be mentally, physically, and emotionally happy, RIGHT? 

Making that change, changed my marriage… we were always friends but finding out where my issues came from. Change me and fixed me, and made my marriage stronger and made us a lot closer..  Which brings me to my point… My fitness friend asked me why I was so tried this morning… I told her I was up all night talking to my husband.. She said watching TV? I said no talking… She said what like 20, 30 mins? I said no all night? Maybe like 3 or 4 hours.. She just looked at me puzzled.. I’m like what. She said I couldn’t talk to anyone that long. LOL

I just feel like I can take a million small conversation and put it to a whole night of pillow talk.. In my opinion.. That is where the intimacy is, its in the long conversation.  Its in the long lasting hugs, the good bye kisses that starts with one peck and end up lasting longer. A lot of people confuse sex with love.. Can you go day with out having sex as a married couple and still laugh, kiss, talk, and cuddle with out feeling that something is missing? Or the black flag of death is hovering over your marriage? 

I feel like the satisfaction of being pulled in close and having 1000s of words whispered in my ear that could make me surprised, happy, shocked, silly, and or laugh has more gratification than sex any day..  I feel way more loved that he can share his inner most everything with me and I can do the same with him without being judge, or loved any differently. Sex is easy it can be done with anyone. But intimacy is difficult. It requires honesty, openness, self-disclosure, confiding concerns, fears, sadnesses as well as hopes and dreams.

Again its just my opinion, I know that getting to the point where my husband and I are now was not easy, but worth it. He is my best friend and I wouldn’t want to have it any other way. It makes me so mad to think about the time we wasted when everyday could have been this amazing.. But I enjoy it and look forward to each and everyday I have with him.

Until I write again, until you read again 

Kisses and Misses